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Saturday, October 10, 2009

Dinner at Emmy's

Went to dinner at Emmy's for the first time tonight. (http://emmys.netudo.net/) Have always wanted to eat there, but it is always so busy...but it is a local institution, so today the chance to eat there presented itself and I accepted.

Our waitress must've been new...this was the first disappointment. There were so many old time established servers there with eons of experience, EXCEPT for our server. I did not know what I was eating so I just ordered water...which was bottled water, in small bottles for a dollar a piece. That was the next disappointment...if I am gonna drop 50 bucks on dinner, give me some damn water, LOL.

Lori ordered a house red...which befuddled our server. She then specified a cabernet. The waitress returned to ask again what kind of wine... then the bartender came and informed us that they only serve Merlot. OK, no big deal.

Emmys also serves German food, which is kind of what I was in the mood for...I envisioned a pork shank on a bed of sauerkraut...but I was informed they only serve German on Wednesdays now. Next disappointment.

Decided on the king cut prime rib, Lori got the queen and we got a blooming onion as an appetizer. Meal came with soup, something they called salad (a plate with some dressed cucumbers, tomatoes and cole slaw) and bread.

While we were waiting, I got the biggest disappointment of the night. The waitress at the next table informed the diners that the special of the day was pork shank. I was livid.

Anyway, the lividity was quelled when the entrees arrived. This was an obscenely huge piece of beef. Easily 9 inches by 5 inches, and 2 1/2 inches tall. With a baked potato. This was one of the rare times I actually brought home leftovers.

Overall, the quality of the food was great, the atmosphere very dated and so so , but the owners and everyone other than our actual server was very attentive and friendly. The owner stopped at the table several times and engaged us.

We both enjoyed it, but I dont know if I will be beating a path back again anytime real soon. If I get a jones for German cooking, it is worth the extra hoof to go to the Willow Tree in Sanford.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Fifth Anniversary of My Accident (Sept 2004)

Fifth Anniversary of My Accident....

Current mood:thankful

This week (9/24) marks the fifth anniversary of one of the most life changing events I have experienced.

I was coming home from work...we were in the middle of the 3 hurricanes in a row that we were getting back in 2004. Between the second and third hurricanes was when my accident occurred. The median on highway 92 was full of water. I had my cruise control set at 70 and was headed back to DeLand. I veered into the median and got sucked into the wet grass. I spun out in the median, veered right into the swail, got airborne and while barrel rolling hit a pine tree with the drivers door, which cut my head face and arm open, then landed roof first on an oak tree which bent the van in half, on the drivers seat, which broke my neck in two places.

The van landed upside down in the woods along the road. I have no idea how long I was there before anyone found me. I know I was laying on the dome light as the bulb burned my back.

I woke up in the emergency room, but could not open my eyes. The state trooper was with me, and the hospital staff called Lori to come meet me at the hospital once I was able to communicate. I had a wedding to do that weekend, so I was concerned how badly my face looked. That was when the nurse told me the extent of my injuries. Even in the ER, I had Lori cover the wedding for me with another DJ, LOL...always
working, LOL!

My neighbors helped Lori salvage as much gear from the van as possible and get it to the house, as I lay in surgery the same day. I have a titanium plate and screws holding my neck together now...along with a bone from a cadaver to fuse what I broke.

About a week later I was released, but I was in so much pain I had to go back for more procedures. They were going to fit me with a halo but as I was borderline for that, and an obedient patient, I got away with a Miami J collar, which I wore for the better part of the next year.

I could walk, but that was about it. I had pretty much lost the use of my right arm, couldnt even brush my teeth or move it enough to wash or wipe! It just kind of laid there. I was not allowed to do anything, which is against my nature, so my days consisted of eating, drinking, and watching TV for some time. I got to a point where I was allowed to walk more, so I would go venture downtown and go for long walks to try to stay in shape. My arms looked very withered after awhile.

Being out of work, and adding all of these expenses was pretty horrible...BUT my very good friends organized an AMAZING fundraiser. Everyone in the community stepped forward to help. We had 12 bands play in 12 hours...t shirts sold, food sold, cash donations...just amazing. We raised enough to keep my head above water for the months that I was out of the loop. All of my employers vowed to keep my job open til I got back, and other area hosts covered for me in my absence.

I got back to work VERY slowly and with lots of help. I did a few parties to warm into it, then came back one day at a time. I had to have people to unload my van for me and do the lifting. Once I was able to start lifting, I started feeling better...I had no insurance for physical therapy, so I foolishly went thru the recovery without any...and I still regret that.

As I got back to work full time, the bills piled up...and I started a 6-7 day a week work regimen that continues to this day. With very little insurance coverage, the bulk of the bill landed on my lap. After I got established back, I took out a mortgage large enough to cover my house, bills, and my van , and paid all my debts in full, then committed to go after the mortgage full steam. It would have been easy to declare bankruptcy, but this seemed more noble.

Today, many who know me or of me, have no idea this happened. They may see me limp or creak and comment on it, but given the severity of the accident and my injuries, I have never complained once, nor will I. The alternatives were not favorable...and considering how worse it could have been, I feel lucky. I am also lucky to have a support group in my family and friends. They went to extraordinary lengths at times to help me out.

Not only have I committed to pay my debts, BUT I have also committed to repaying all of the money donated to me. I kept track of the totals, and am paying it forward. Every penny that was given to me in my time of need is moving on forward to help someone else in need...that is just what karma demands.

Thanks for listening...and thanks to all of you who did help me out when I needed it!! Not a day goes by that I do not think of this event.

There is a complete album of van pics in my photo album if you want to see some amazing photos...








Sunday, May 3, 2009

The Recession, Karaoke and You

While I am sensitive to the economic climate today, and it's effect on my friends, patrons and singers, I also see the economy eroding at karaoke from another direction, one which I have addressed in the following essay. Karaoke shows and similar entertainment are free to the public, but there is a hidden cost, and a threat to the future of such entertainment that the economic down turn is seeming to accellerate. The following essay addresses the impact from the perspective of the venues who pay for and provide my service, and those who work at the venues.


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KARAOKE: THE ECONOMIC DOWNTURN, KARAOKE AND YOU - A FRANK LOOK AT KARAOKE IN TODAY'S ECONOMY

The recent economic downturn has affected all of us in one way or another, but most definitely has affected the karaoke community. We have seen business after business fail lately, and shows at some bars have disappeared. Many people have either lost their jobs, or otherwise do not have the discretionary income they once had to come out and enjoy an evening of food, drink, and karaoke. A good karaoke host knows what the reason for their being at a venue is, and when venues, or the people who work at them, stop making money, it puts the future of a karaoke show in peril. The following is a brief essay to explain the economics of karaoke, and an explanation of your part in that system as a consumer of the karaoke product.

WHY BARS AND RESTAURANTS PROVIDE KARAOKE

This reason is simple. Bars and restaurants hire a karaoke host to attract a crowd to spend money. While having a host who is good with people, attracts good singers, and has decent equipment and selection is a plus, at the end of the day it comes down to what is in the cash register, and what the servers can earn. Bar owners are less concerned with the content of a show, than they are that the show attracts a crowd and that the numbers at the end of the day justify inviting the host back week after week. A good host will remain aware of what the bars take is, and how much the servers are earning, to be sure that the economics of karaoke at that location are worth the venue asking him or her to come back week after week. It is important for a large percentage of attendees to support the venue, either by eating or drinking, and also for the attendees to tip their servers. Servers generally make less than minimum wage, and rely on tips solely to make a livable wage.

KARAOKE NIGHTS: HOW THE ECONOMIC DOWNTURN HAS AFFECTED THE VENUES

First and foremost...smaller crowds. Secondly, those who are attending seem to spend less. It is possible to see shows that are wildly popular, with long rotations and believe that it is going to be a great night for the host and venue...but then at the end of the night, the servers have made little to no money, and the total in the cash register is very low. This has been the first year that I have gone to work at several of my venues, wondering if my future was in jeopardy there...either because the rings or attendance have been low, or because the venue overall is losing money and may close down. Where a large crowd may give the illusion of success, it is NOT NECESSARILY so.

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO HELP?

SUPPORT THE VENUE AND THE SERVERS! First and foremost, if you are supporting the venues and the servers, THANK YOU!! Supporting can be as simple as ordering a food item, maybe a couple of drinks...and tipping your server. I understand that many do not drink, and choose to drink soft drinks or water. Please understand that the venue does have an overhead of paying for the room, the staff and the entertainment, so if they charge a premium for soft drinks, water and refills, it is merely to recoup their costs in paying the bills from a shrinking audience. Some folks have balked at rising prices, or less liberal refill policies, or higher prices for drinks not accompanied by food, by taking it out on the servers and not tipping them. The servers do not make the price policies, so please do not take it out on them. When you look at your tab, factor in not only the cost of the food or drink, but also the enjoyment you got from the entertainment. There was no cover charge, so if you feel your tab is high, pretend that it includes a cover charge to pay for your karaoke host, and the electricity, etc... Cover charges COULD become the next step if we are not cautious.

THE ECONOMY OF KARAOKE : HELPING THE SERVERS/BARTENDERS

Keeping the servers and bartenders happy goes a long way to keeping your favorite karaoke show in business. If the servers do not make money, they will not want to work the shifts...and when management sees no one wants the shifts, they will more closely audit the karaoke night to see if it is worthwhile. Similarly, if the servers do not make money, they will not have a positive outlook on their job, or karaoke. Happy servers are better at their job, and if they see karaoke as a money making night, will do more to promote it, both to the public and to their bosses. TIPPING THE BARTENDER OR SERVER IS NOT OPTIONAL! This must be in the budget for the night. I have heard story after story about patrons who pay their tabs, then explain that they are broke and cant afford to tip...and then smile at the server and expect them to understand. Serving food and drink is what they do to survive, and why they are there...and they are paid by the consumers in the form of tips. To allow and expect someone to serve you, even water, for the duration of an evening with no pay is not acceptable, and will not win a karaoke night any favor from management. Imagine if your waiter came to where you work and expected you to do what you do for a living for them, then when it came time to pay, refused to pay your labor charge or commission because they did not have enough money. That is how waiters feel when they are "stiffed". After speaking to several servers, the consensus is that if someone tips a buck a drink for alcohol, or drops a five at the beginning of a night to show intent, then follows up later with 18-20% of the total bill tipped, that would be a good return. ANY gesture is better than none.

One must understand the "real estate" of restaurants and bars as well. Each table represents a station for a server, and each seat in that station has the potential of generating revenue for the server, and the venue. If someone takes a seat at a station, they are responsible for making sure the server at that station is being taken care of. The value of the "real estate" of the chair you are sitting in depends on several factors....1) How busy is the night and is that seat needed, 2) Are you intending to eat and drink, or sip water. 3) How many people at the table are eating and drinking vs not.

At venues where there are PLENTY of seats, this is not as crucial as at smaller venues where seating is at a premium. I know that one venue I work at with limited seating is working on instituting a minimum purchase policy for its premium seating soon to ensure that paying diners do not leave for lack of a seat.

I have heard singers that do not spend use the argument that "they sing well and people come to hear them" or that "they bring their friends who spend". To some extent, those statements are true, and personally, I am happy to see a crowd...the bigger the better. I work better with a crowd. There is no shame to coming and NOT spending, unless, you are taking up real estate at a crowded show, or you are not tipping the server. Even if you are not spending, if you take a seat, you should tip the server for checking in on you and cleaning up after you when you leave. Tipping a server for free water may not endear you to the venue, but your server will appreciate it, and you, very much.

THE ECONOMY OF KARAOKE - HELPING THE VENUE

Ordering anything helps...bringing friends who may eat or drink... If drinking water, buying the bottle instead of drinking the free water helps.

IN CONCLUSION

Together we can all ride out the economic downturn to more prosperous time, but the issues discussed in this essay are timeless regardless of any economic condition. We all enjoy a great karaoke show, but need to understand the real reason they exist for us. When the show or its patrons become a liability to the venue, karaoke and similar "free" entertainment will go away. If you are not a part of the "problem", then you ARE the solution. For that I thank you, both on my behalf, and on the behalf of the places that keep me working, and the servers who take care of my patrons. If we keep the shows viable for the venues, the servers and the patrons, our shows will be going on forever! I thank you for your patronage, and for your ear on this matter.

Feel free to contact me with any questions or comment or suggestions in regard to this subject!! THANKS!!

Harry

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Atrocious day of eating, LOL...

Atrocious day of eating, LOL...

Current mood:fermented
My food intake today has been notable, and very atypical...noted as thus:
Morning:  Lime Michelob Ultra, Liverwurst Sub with onions, mustard, pickles and swiss cheese...
Afternoon...more lime beer...
Evening...Country Fried Steak and 3 eggs and pancakes at I-hop, with 5 cups of coffee...topped with Cholula hot sauce of course...
Then, home for more lime beer...then off to ConeHeads for a Banana Split, featuring 2 scoops of cow tracks and one scoop of mint chocochip, and strawberries, pineapple, whipped cream, nuts and bananas...then home for more lime beer.
Be very afraid...LOL!

Friday, January 23, 2009

Interesting Coinkydink

Our dogs Tiny and Foster have different personalities, but are each uniquely wonderful. One thing about Tiny, is that she is not particularly affectionate all the time...that is, she has her moments, but she has never been one to be cuddly or snuggly, like Foster is.
One night not long ago, I plunked on the couch and Tiny joined me, and snuggled up to my lap. Foster joined us, so I suggested that Lori take a picture.

Then, since I was impressed that Tiny was hangin out, I got Lori to shoot another pic of Tiny and I...

My kneejerk reaction to seeing the photos was that they were cool, but my pose was not the most flattering to me, LOL! But, it was a rare, candid shot.
Later, I found this pic of me from when I was maybe 12, with my dog Scosh



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I guess I always have been a dog on the couch guy, and always will be, LOL. Just loved the coincidence and the equally unflattering pose, LOL!